By finding your primary happiness in the things you do and find enjoyable, you liberate others and yourself. When you want others to take care of your happiness, they have to behave in a way that fulfills your expectations. And the same happens to you when others have this expectation of you. Nothing wrong in that and some constraints brought on by external expectations do improve the quality of life. The trick is not to let it get to the point of being over-bearing.
If instead you find your own source of happiness, whatever the other person does or you do for them is a bonus to whatever they had earlier.
There's of course joy in doing things for the people you love, it will make you and them happy. But this shouldn't be the main source of your happiness. Let it be the icing, not the cake.
If instead you find your own source of happiness, whatever the other person does or you do for them is a bonus to whatever they had earlier.
There's of course joy in doing things for the people you love, it will make you and them happy. But this shouldn't be the main source of your happiness. Let it be the icing, not the cake.
